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Youth in 1982 vs 2012

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Interesting look at the differences between youth in 1982 and youth today. I was a youth and graduated from High School in 1984 so interesting to see the differences between my generation and today’s generation of youth.

Then vs Now: How Things Have Changed from 1982 to 2012


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The REAL Night Before Christmas
(By Parents)

‘Twas the night before Christmas
when all through the house
I searched for the tools
to hand to my spouse
Instructions were studied
and we were inspired,
in hopes we could manage
“Some Assembly Required.”

The children were quiet (not asleep) in their beds,
while Dad and I faced the evening with dread:
a kitchen, two bikes, Barbie’s townhouse to boot!
And now, thanks to Grandpa, a train with a toot!

We opened the boxes, my heart skipped a beat –
let no parts be missing or parts incomplete!
Too late for last-minute returns or replacement;
if we can’t get it right, it goes straight to the basement!

When what to my worrying eyes should appear
but 50 sheets of directions, concise, but not clear,
With each part numbered and every slot named,
so if we failed, only we could be blamed.

More rapid than eagles the parts then fell out,
all over the carpet they were scattered about.
“Now bolt it! Now twist it! Attach it right there!
Slide on the seats, and staple the stair!
Hammer the shelves, and nail to the stand.”
“Honey,” said hubby, “you just glued my hand.”

And then in a twinkling, I knew for a fact
that all the toy dealers had indeed made a pact
to keep parents busy all Christmas Eve night
with “assembly required” till morning’s first light.

We spoke not a word, but kept bent at our work,
till our eyes, they went blurry; our fingers all hurt.
The coffee went cold and the night, it wore thin
before we attached the last rod and last pin.
Then laying the tools away in the chest,
we fell into bed for a well-deserved rest.

But I said to my husband just before I passed out,
“This will be the best Christmas, without any doubt.
Tomorrow we’ll cheer, let the holiday ring,
and not run to the store for one single thing!
We did it! We did it! The toys are all set
for the perfect, most magical, Christmas, I bet!”

Then off to dreamland and sweet repose
I gratefully went, though I suppose
there’s something to say for those self-deluded-
I’d forgotten that BATTERIES are never included!

 


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THINK Before You Speak to Youth

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Our words are very powerful, especially when speaking to youth who are forming their sense of identity and self-worth. They have the power to build up, and to tear down, the power to inspire and to dishearten, the power to encourage or discourage. Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a youth minister, or just a friend of youth here are 5 simple things to consider.

The next time you want to say something to a youth, T.H.I.N.K. first.

Before you say something you might regret, ask yourself these 5 simple questions. If the answer is “No” to any one of these questions, then you might not want to say it to a youth. Teens are very sensitive to the words we say. The following scriptures have had general references to people replaced with the word “youth” or a variation to bring more focus to our conversations with those who are youths.

1. TRUE? – Is it true?

  • Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, in reference to youth, think about these things. (Philippians 4:8)
  • Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment. (Proverbs 12:19)

2. HELPFUL? – Is it helpful?

  • Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building youth up according to their needs, that it may benefit the teens who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)

3. INSPIRING? – Is it inspiring?

  • But encourage teenagers daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness (Hebrews 3:13)
  • Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur youth on toward love and good deeds. (Hebrews 10:23-24)

4. NECESSARY? – Is it necessary?

  • Walk in wisdom toward youth, redeeming the time. Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each teenager. (Ephesians 4:5-6)
  • But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken to youth. (Matthew 12:36)

5. KIND? – Is it Kind?

  • Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice toward youth. (Ephesians 4:31)
  • He who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend. (Proverbs 22:11)
  • Instead, speaking the truth to teens in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. (Ephesians 4:15)

Another way to look at this is to consider how to reword what you have to say to teenagers so that it fits these 5 guidelines. So the next time, before you say something to a youth, THINK first!


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Shrek Themed Birthday Party

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In every youth group, there will be opportunities to celebrate the birthdays of your teens. Here is a Birthday Party theme with one of my favorite animated characters.

Decoration Ideas

  • Poster board cut and decorated to look like castle windows.
  • A poster on the Door saying: Welcome to the land of Far Far Away
  • Cut out poster board to look like Shrek and Fiona’s carriage (garlic clove of Garlic).
  • Shrek soft toys and plushies.
  • Cover your table with a bright yellow table cloth. Scatter green sequins all around the top. – Run strips of green and purple streamers down the center to create a table runner.
  • If your party is for younger youth or children, build a castle using a large appliance box and small boxes on-top. Cut a door and windows. Paint the entire castle with gray paint. Alternatively, decorate the box to look like a tree stump with windows. The children can use this for playtime and you’ll be able to keep it for your lucky birthday child! And it’s a great decoration for a youth party too!

 

Party Hat Ideas
Greet Everyone at the door with their very own pair of Ogre Ears.

Materials

    • Large sheets of light and dark green Craft Foam or construction paper.
  • Craft glue or a hot glue gun.
  • Headbands

 

Instructions

  1. Cut two shrek ears and two small triangles for the inside of the ears.
  2. Attach the small triangles to the ears with a glue gun.
  3. Then attach the ears to the head band with the glue gun.

 

Food Ideas:

  • Ginger Bread Man Cookies
  • Roasted Turkey Legs
  • Roasted Garlic Cloves
  • “Worms” in red swamp mud (Spaghetti Bolognese)
  • Soda with green food coloring

 

Game Ideas:
Pin the Wings on the Donkey

  • Just like Pin the Tail on the Donkey, but you’ll need to make wings with construction paper or craft foam sheets.
  • Enlist an artistic teen to draw a Donkey on poster board … they are much cuter that the donkey in the traditional game.

 

Prince Charming Tag

  • Designate a Prince Charming. That player will wear a crown.
  • When you say go…the guests will try to catch the Prince.To make it more difficult for youth, blindfold them and have prince charming quote lines from the movie. Youth follow the voice and try to tag prince charming.

 

Cupcake Walk

  • Let youth draw and color a picture of their favorite Shrek character on squares of heavy paper.
  • Tape the squares to the floor in a circle, using one fewer than the number of participants.
  • The birthday youth gets to start and stop the music at appropriate times during the game.
  • When the music starts, like in the traditional musical chairs, the teens walk from square to square.
  • When the music stops, the youth left without a square is out of the game but gets a cupcake.
  • Play continues until one player is left.
  • Award a prize to the winner, along with a tasty cupcake.

A Healthy Spiritual Heart for Youth

As a youth, we need to ask God for:

  1. A LEARNER’S HEART
    • Learn for God’s glory, your edification, and the furtherance of the Gospel.
    • To know, knowledge are used at least 51 times in Proverbs.
    • Weigh all learning through the knowledge of Jesus Christ (II Peter 3:18).
  2. AN UNDERSTANDING HEART – 65 times in Proverbs
    • To be able to interpret what you learn (above) in God’s perspective (Proverbs 2:10,11).
    • To be able to understand yourself first (Proverbs 4:7-9) and then others.
  3. AN HONEST, TRANSPARENT HEART
    • What you can’t understand (above), share with the person giving you the real or imagined problem (Matthew 5:23,24).
  4. A PURE HEART
    • In an increasingly amoral world we must flee youthful lusts (II Timothy 2:22).
    • Young men and women overcome by letting God’s Word live within (I John 2:14).
    • Don’t be a loner – go out two by two (Mark 6:7).
  5. A DISCRETIONARY HEART – in Word and in Deed
    • To know the difference between that which unnecessarily offends and the inoffensive (Proverbs 2:11).
    • Lord, help me not to be a stumbling block to younger Christians (I Corinthians 8).
  6. A RESPECTFUL HEART
    • You may not agree with or understand someone, but respect him for his work’s sake (I Thessalonians 5:12).
    • Notice in I Timothy 5:1,2 the intricate relationships that young Timothy must observe.
  7. A DISCIPLINED HEART
    • One that chooses against oneself in all matters great or small (Luke 9:23). What you are will be your message (II Corinthians 3:2,3):
  8. A SERVANT’S ALERT HEART
    • Become a load-lifter. Anticipate what would be helpful and then do it. Study the greatest servant in all of history, Jesus Christ (Mark 10:42-45).
  9. A COMMUNICATING HEART
    • This is the counterbalance to merely “being a good example.” Communicate by word, the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.
    • Acts uses words like witness, teach, tell, proclaim, etc., 113 times or an average of four per chapter.
    • Your personal testimony, backed by God’s Word are your greatest weapons (Revelation 12:11).
  10. A PRAISING, THANKFUL HEART
    • If you learn this through loneliness, problems, misunderstandings – you will be A-OK with God.
    • In everything give thanks (I Thessalonians 5:18; Ephesians 5:20; Hebrews 13:15):

 


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7 Key Questions Youth Ministers Should Ask Everyday

  • Why?
    Key: Discover the root cause.

    Life is cause and effect. Actions give you your results. This applies to not only what we do, but to what others do as well. It applies in church, in youth ministry, in your job, and in your personal life. Try to see things through the eyes of the Bible, through the eyes of God, through the eyes of another person to discover the root causes. And remember Isaiah 55:8 – Sometimes we simply don’t know. But ti still never hurts to ask why and you might discover some missing piece, a small change, a different perspective that can change your outcomes.
  • What did I learn?
    Key to progress

    What can you learn about God, about yourself, about others, about your church, about your youth ministry, about the youth as indiciduals. Life is full of lessons about God, about human nature, regarding our own self-knowledge. Mistakes are made, misunderstandings occur, plans fail, but at the same time, success can be repeated, opportunities can be discovered, possibilities can be explored if we can find a lesson to grow from.
  • How can I help you?
    Focus on the needs of others

    It’s easy to get distracted from the real reason we are in youth ministry and focus on events, results, rules, traditions and ourselves rather than focus on the needs of other people. Our ministry is not just to our youth, but to our families, to the church, to church leaders, to our colleagues, to parents, and to our volunteer workers. When we focus on the needs of others and that they are special creations of God, created with a purpose it can make a world of difference. Sometimes we have to see people not for what they are now, but for what they can be through the grace of God and playing whatever part God give to us to nurture that growth in Christ.
  • What if?
    Free your creativity, new possibilities

    A small change in perspective can make a big difference. Many of the conveniences of todays world came about because someone asked “What if?” Instead of looking at impossibilities, explore the possibilities. With God anything is possible. Instead of seeing difficulties, look for opportunities. Instead of seeing struggles, see opportunities for growth. Focus on solutions and you will find them.
  • How can this be improved?
    Take your results to a new level

    Even success can be tweaked for greater success. Contentment is often the precursor to failure. You will only grow as big as your dreams. When you trust God with things that are bigger than you, you’ll find that he is bigger than any success or failure. Step out in faith for even bigger things the next time around!
  • How can I show my gratitude?
    Thankfulness is key to long-term happiness

    We know that all good things come from God. There is a light at the end of every tunnel. There is an opportunity in every difficulty. When everything is great, it is because God has blessed. Give thanks in all things. Whatever we focus on grows bigger in our thoughts. Success is getting what you hoped for, but happiness is found in being thankful to God for what you have.
  • What is the best use of my time now?
    Refocus on what’s most important,

    There are never enough hours in a day to do what needs to be done in your youth ministry or church. But God doesn’t call us to be solely responsible. Each member of the youth group, of the church is a part of the Body of Christ and God divides the work among us. God gives every one of his children a piece of the load of ministry to carry. Just pick up your piece and trust God to deliver the rest.


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17 Places to Find Potential Leaders for Your Youth Ministry

For most youth ministries, the summer months are very busy. A lot of youth ministers are conducting summer camps, organizing youth retreats, leading mission trips, and taking youth on special outings. No youth leader can do it alone and even if you are one of those who think you can do it alone, don’t.

Youth Pastors Need to Build a Youth Ministry Team

Building up a committed team of leaders and helpers for youth ministry will provide you valuable insights, additional talents, and more eyes, hands and footwork to keep the youth program running smoothly. As you invest in leaders it also develops shared ownership of the youth program that insures it continues effectively for many years to come even if you move on to a different church or ministry yourself.

Here are just a few of the benefits of building a youth ministry team:

Communication
When parents and church leaders are part of the team and understand the goals and programs, it makes it so much easier to communicate those goals to the congregation as well as avoid misunderstandings.

Commitment
Involvement generates commitment. When people see themselves as stakeholders in the ministry, they tend to be more committed to making it successful.

Care
It’s much easier for a group of people to attend to the varied and sometimes overwhelming needs of youth and show care on a much more personal level than for a single youth leader trying to care for a large youth group. For youth, time is important and the larger the youth group, the less time you will have for individuals in the group.

So how can you get started building a youth ministry team?

In the book, “Good to Great” by Jim Collins, he explains several powerful ideas for any company or organization. One of those principles is very appropriate for youth ministry “Get the right people on the bus, the wrong people off the bus, and the right people in the right seats – then figure out where to drive it.” Getting the right team in the right roles is the most important part of building a youth ministry team.

Here are 17 places to find potential youth leaders for your youth ministry team.

1. Surveys
Conduct a Talent / Interest Surveys for the entire congregation. Have the various roles and responsibilities for all church ministries listed. When new people join he church as members, also ask them to fill out Talent/ Interest Surveys. You’ll want to get to know them and observe their Christian walk and commitment over time, but that is true of anyone you consider for a youth ministry role.

2. Committed Church Members
Ask currently active Bible Study or Sunday school members to become youth leaders. Ask current cell group members to become youth leaders. People who are already committed to the church often make great additions to the youth ministry team.

3. Ask for Recommendations
Ask the current youth leaders to recommend Potential Leaders from the congregation. Chances are, the youth leaders you have now also know other friends in the church who would be great leaders. You can also ask the teens in your church, “Who in the church do you think would make a great youth leader?” Youth are very aware of the people in the church who already make them feel welcome and loved. Ask Sunday school members (Or Bible Study Leaders) to recommend potential leaders. They are very aware of those in their studies and classes that have a mature or growing faith that would be great Bible Teachers or Sunday School Teachers. Additionally, ask the current church leadership to recommend potential youth leaders. Their circle of relationships may include many people that are not too familiar to you, but who would make great leaders. Don’t forget to ask deacons or elders in addition to the other pastoral leaders.

4. Existing Short term Programs
One of these is Vacation Bible School. Many churches hold these programs for children in the church. It’s a short commitment and usually gets a lot of volunteers. Some of those working with the older children might make great youth leaders as well.

5. Previous Leaders
Many people serve in leadership positions and then at times take break due to family or work commitments and other various reasons. In time they are often willing to jump back into a ministry position if asked.

6. Committed people who aren’t already doing something. 
It sometimes seem that there are the few same people in the church doing all the work. Ministry leaders see their commitment and talents and give them more to do. But sometimes, there are others who aren’t really ambitious enough to volunteer who just need a little nudge to get them involved. It’s much easier to teach a committed member a few skills in ministering to youth than to teach commitment to someone who has the interest but lacks the commitment.

7. Existing Lists
Take out the Church membership roll, the Sunday School Rosters, Cell group rosters, participant lists in various church training programs and ministry opportunities and read through the names. If you just try to list form your own memory you will miss many of the precious souls who are often present, but not foremost in your thoughts. Many of these are valuable gems simply waiting to be shaped and polished!

8. Returning Church Members
Previous students who have gone off to college and come back for a summer break or having completed their college education often make excellent youth leaders. They may need a little more guidance but they make up for the lack of experience with an abundance of energy. Returning servicemen and women also make great youth leaders. They typically are very disciplined and work very hard.

9. Persons attending training conferences and conventions
The fact that these people are taking the extra effort to grow and mature their faith makes them good candidates for potential youth positions. It may also reflect a more flexible schedule that is helpful when serving youth.

10. Training Courses
Offer a training course for youth workers, parents, or anyone else that wants to better understand youth. Those that attend the course obviously must have an interest and some of them might make great additions to your youth ministry team. You can offer general leadership classes or potential Teacher classes etc. as well.

11. People in administrative positions
Members often serve in administrative positions because they want to contribute but are not yet ready to take a ministry role. For many this is the first step into ministry and once they gain confidence and understanding they are ready to move on to something more hands on.

12. People who work with youth outside the church
Coaches, school teachers, school administrators and many other people work with youth outside the church. Some of them may be looking for church to be a break away from the routine work with youth. But there are still others who would welcome the opportunity to minister to you at church and youth functions.

13. People who are Leaders in their Careers
There are business men and women in every church whose work requires leadership skills. They can be leaders in a variety of situations. There may also be others who are leaders in the community as well. Give them an opportunity to be spiritual leaders to your teens.

14. People with Free time
Retired Persons often have lots of time and wisdom to contribute to any youth program. They may not have the energy but they certainly have lots of love and affection. You can often find meaningful roles for them in your youth program. Some examples might be writing personal postcards, praying for youth, and for those with a bit more energy and mobility can often put their younger counterparts to shame in serving God.

15. New Church Members
When people transfer from another church, their churches may highlight their previous service as part of the recommendation or transfer of membership. Nurturing new members in a New Members class also should include some teaching on discovering gifts and finding places of service in the church.

16. Contributors to the Youth Ministry
There are often people in the church that contribute to the youth ministry by providing transport, food, places for meetings, or even money. It is such people that provide a backbone for many of the youth groups. Even so, some might be willing to become a little more personally involved if asked.

17. Parents
It’s rare that a parent makes a good youth leader in the church if that role is serving over his or her own teens. During adolescence, teens start looking for significant role models outside the immediate family. Teenage years can also be turbulent and emotionally charged, thus church can be an oasis away from that trouble. If both teen and parent are ok with it, it works out fantastic. Biblical responsibility for raising Godly men and women, after all, rests with the parents. But for many parents and youth, this simply isn’t going to be a god idea yet. But there are often other leadership roles with a different class or age group, which are very suitable even when a parent has teens in the youth program.

A Final Note
I wanted to give you 10 places to find youth leaders and help for your youth ministry, but as I started writing more ideas came to mind. Simply remember, we are one body of Christ with many parts and we are all different but also all needed. Pray for God’s guidance to show you those to approach and that he would steer their hearts toward places to serve in your ministry. Personally, I believe that there is a place for everyone in the church. We just need to get the right people into the right seats and let God do the driving on our journey heavenward!

Have more ideas? Why not share them in the comments below. Where do you go to find leaders for youth youth ministry team?


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Youth Self-Image: Primary Influences

Self-Esteem and Self-Image are issues that all youth have to address. During the teenage years, the primary developmental task for youth is discovering their identity, their life purpose, their mission in this world. Youth are asking the question, “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?”

One step to helping your church youth deal with these critical questions is in understanding some of the primary issues that influence a young person’s self-esteem or self-image.

Here are seven primary factors that effect a youth’s self-image.

1. Age that Youth Physically Mature
Youth progress to different stages of maturity at different speeds. Guys tend to be a little behind the girls in maturity, but every youth is different and growing and maturing at a different rate. In relation to their peers, there will always be some youth that are a little behind their peers and some that are a little ahead. Interestingly this is often tied to their physical maturity. If they mature physically earlier than their peers, because they look more like adults, people often treat them more like adults and these youth tend to generally develop a fairly positive self-image. Youth who mature physically a little later than their peers, still look more like children and are treated by adults as children. These youth who mature a little later often feel misunderstood and more likely to have negative self image and maladjusted behavior.

Implications and Ideas for Youth Ministry
Don’t treat youth differently based on physical maturity. Treat everyone of a specific age group the same as mush as possible, both in leadership responsibilities as well as in other interactions. Don’t single out those who are a little behind in physical maturity, not give all the leadership and responsibilities to those who are more mature.

2. Physical Appearance
Youth are very peer conscious. They are always comparing themselves to their peers. While some may strive to be different, most prefer to hide in the crowd, to blend in with their peers. For most youth, If they look different from their peers they see themselves as being strange and potentially inferior. This is especially true for the primary sexual characteristics such as body hair, breast development in the girls and muscle and genital development in the guys. Even if they are more attractive because of their male physique or feminine curves it can still lead to a poor self-image simply because they see themselves as different from their peers. Physical differences such as a large nose, or bigger than usual ears or even being too thin or simply a little bigger than their peers can lead to inferiority issues. When it is a physical defect or even simple things like acne or rashes it can still have a negative impact on their self-image. The more embarrassing or unusual he difference, the greater the impact.

Implications and Ideas for Youth Ministry
Do not draw attention to physical differences among youth, especially if it is something that could lead to embarrassment of any kind. Try to avoid activities that highlight the differences and always be affirming to youth regarding their appearance.

3. Sex-Appropriateness
Sex-appropriate characteristics are essential for a healthy self-esteem among youth. This includes appearance, interests, and behavior. Guys that appear a little more effeminate and girls that appear too masculine tend to have problems in self-estem. Youth have nicknames for them such as a “sissy” for a less masculine guy and “tom-boy” for a less feminine girl. Some youth have more trouble forming a healthy self-image if they aspire to occupations that tend to be dominated by the opposite sex. For example, hair dressers are often seen as a woman’s job and construction work is often seen as a man’s job. Finally there might be specific mannerisms and interests that again are commonly associated with the opposite sex. These can also be hurdles for them to overcome in developing a positive self-image.

Implications and Ideas for Youth Ministry
Try not to reinforce stereotypes for jobs and behaviors. Avoid masculine / feminine comparisons and instead treat everyone as brothers and sisters in Christ. Always affirm youth for who they are and for what they do as an individual rather than as simply a guy or a girl. Always try to include sports and activities that balance out the need for both guys and girls on each team. Always try to have a variety of positive role models serving within your youth ministry team including singles, couples, and people from a variety of occupations and walks of life.

4. Names and Nicknames
Youth are sensitive and embarrassed if their peers judge a nickname unfavorably or if they are given nicknames that are meant or even implies ridicule. Nicknames can often stick with a person for life.

Implications and Ideas for Youth Ministry
Nicknames and labels are to be avoided at all costs as they tend to highlight the negative. If you hear a youth using negative labels or nicknames, encourage them to use more positive ones. Set the example yourself by using positive labels that affirm the positive qualities in each youth.

5. Family Relationships
Teens who have very close relationships with a particular family member will identify most closely
with this person. As such, they tend to desire similar personality traits. This can be positive or negative. They say that if you want to know how a guy will treat his wife, look at how he treats his mother. If you want to know how a girl will treat a future husband, look at how they treat their father. At the same time, this desire to be like the most-liked parent can be detrimental if it goes over the line of causing sexually ambiguous behavior and characteristics. Lack of positive family relationships and positive role models can also cause problems for youth regarding their self-image.

Implications and Ideas for Youth Ministry
Have a variety of role models serving on your youth ministry team. Singles, dating couples, young couples, couples with children, couples with teens, and couples that have been married for a long time all help youth in affirming their own identities and coming to a positive self-image. Provide opportunities for youth to form significant bonds with others outside their immediate family. This gives them a broader perspective on things to appreciate in their own families as well as helps them to have a variety of models in choosing how they will develop their own relationships and their own identity in those relationships.

6. Peers
Peers place a primary role in the identity formation of youth. During the teen years they start looking outside the immediately family for keys to their own identity. Peers influence a youth’s personality in two primary ways. First, what a youth believes about himself is often a reflection of what he perceives that his peers believe about him. Second, a youth is often under a lot of pressure to conform to the personality traits and behavior that is approved by his peers.

Implications and Ideas for Youth Ministry
Try to create an environment with yourself, your volunteers and the rest of the youth that is affirming and supportive for the youth. While peer pressure can be negative, it can also be very positive. Affirm youth as leaders and who are good role models. Help to mentor those who need a little more help. Make affirmations and recognition a regular part of everything you do in youth ministry. And when possible, without embarrassing the youth, make that recognition public to the rest of the youth.

7. Level of Aspiration
Everyone has dreams and goals and aspirations. Youth are often asking the question, “Why am I here?” “What is my purpose in life?” “What is the meaning behind my existence?” But this is also a tricky area when it comes to youth with fragile self-esteem. They need to have big dreams and goals to drive them forward, but if the dreams are too big they can experience failure and great disappointment. Mistakes and failures, if not handled just right can lead to anxiety and feelings that they are not good enough or even the thought that “I am a failure.” At the same expectation that are too low leads to mediocrity and become without purpose, wandering through life without direction. It has been said that the bigger our dreams, the bigger we become. But also has a greater risk of failure. We need to help youth to be realistic in their aspirations, but at the same time not to be complacent to live only in their comfort zone. Youth who are realistic about his or her abilities will gain greater self-confidence with each success and, with it, a better self-concept.

Implications and Ideas for Youth Ministry
Always challenge youth to dream big but also be realistic dreams. Youth need champions in the youth ministry, people who will cheer them on in their dreams and support them and encourage them in both success and in failure.

By the way, this is not only useful for youth, but it’s great information for parents of youth to consider as well.

 


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Youth Issues 2011

At the start of 2011, I am always asking myself about being relevant to the youth of today. Society and culture is a moving target and if we are to be most effective as youth leaders we need to keep ourselves up to date on the issues that are faced by youth today. Even so I think there are some timeless general themes that every youth struggles with. Here are those on my list. Would love to hear your thoughts!

Ken

  1. Identity – Who am I and why am I here? – Identity as Christians, as a disciple, as a denomination, in relationships to parents, others, etc.
  2. Relationships – How should I interact with others? – relationship with God, with lost, with parents, with friends, with Christians, EQ, etc.
  3. Discipleship – How do I live as a Christian? – Christian disciplines, following Christ, mentoring others, what is means to be a disciple
  4. Decision Making – How should I choose? – Choices, temptation, God’s will, self discipline, career

While these are general themes, what specific themes do you think we need to address with our youth in 2011?

 


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Quick Simple Christmas Decoration Tips

When it comes to decorating for Christmas, some youth pastors find this to be one of the most difficult things to do. While there are some awesome Christmas decoration setups that people have created, they cost a bundle that not every youth budget can afford. Of course, even on a budget, you will still be able to host a youth Christmas party and have a setup that youth will end up talking about for a long time. The best ingredient for a Christmas Party is games and relationships, but you still want a to have a little bit of decorations to enhance the Christmas atmosphere.

Decorating the Snack Table
Chances are if you are hosting a youth party, you will be having a table spread of food. This is the perfect place to begin the decoration process. Find an inexpensive green table cloth to throw on it and accent it with a series of red candles. If your youth are a little wild, candles might be a little dangerous in which you might want to accent the table cloth with red cups, forks, napkins, etc. You can even simply tie a large ribbon and bow across the table (easily made from a strips of red cloth or even a red table cloth cut into strips, and make it look like a giant wrapped gift. This inexpensive and simple method is the perfect way to begin the Christmas decorations in your home or youth room.

Christmas Lights
Lights are also a very popular way of decorating for your youth Christmas party. You can place these twinkling lights around windows, the edges of a wall or just about anywhere at all. They will add the holiday feeling in a room and can get youth talking. While you are doing this, keep in mind that you should never put together more than 3 sets per plug.

Christmas Tree
The Christmas tree is another staple that will be essential in the space you are decorating. When you are looking for the perfect size, try to shoot for about a foot short of being between the floor and your ceiling. This way, you have room for a topper and if it lights, you won’t have to worry about it touching the ceiling and getting too hot. While you are decorating it, make sure you have a series of lights deep around the inner portion of the tree as well as the edges. Larger ornaments go at the base and they work up to the smallest ones at the top of the tree. This way, you end up with a brilliant looking tree that people will compliment you on.

Balloons
If you find you are just looking to fill the room with some quick Christmas cheer, pick up a series of red and green balloons. These will fill up a space quickly, keep the theme you want for your decorations and it will still feel like a holiday party, even if you don’t have a tree or other items setup. Along with this, you might also consider using some Crepe paper to fill the area above with a series of green and red options.

Decorating Tips
When it comes to decorations, keep in mind that less is more in some cases and you should embrace that attitude. While it might look awesome to pack a room full of winter villages, trees and a variety of other items, it can become visually overpowering. Instead, keep things simple and let each item that you add to your room stand out on its own. This will not only please your youth, but will make cleaning up far easier after the holiday has ended and the decorations need to come down.

 

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