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Parent ministry: Parents become very supportive when they know what you are doing.

How well do you know your youth?

Choose one youth by name then ask yourself the following questions:

RELATIONSHIPS

  • Describe your relationship with this youth.
  • How would this youth describe his or her relationship with you?
  • How well does this youth relate to the rest of his peers?
  • Describe this youth’s relationship with his or her parents.

IDENTITY

  • How would this youth describe himself or herself?
  • What strengths and weaknesses would this youth identify about himself / herself?
  • What are this youth’s goals in life?
  • How does this youth spend his or her free time?

SPIRITUAL

  • Describe his or her level of involvement in church and youth activities?
  • Why dos this youth come to church and other youth events?
  • How does he or she feel about church and Bible study?
  • How important does this youth consider his or her relationship with God?
  • What evidence of spiritual growth in the life of this youth can you see?
  • What spiritual gifts does this youth manifest in his or her life and how can you develop these through the life of the church and through involvement in the youth program?


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How teens can give their parents a heart attack

  1. Brag about your parents once in a while. Let them know you are proud of them and tell others about it.
  2. Say “Yes” when your parents ask you to do something with them. They will be elated to know you are not ashamed to be seen with them.
  3. Be grateful for your parents. Parents really respond when their children occasionally say, “Thank you.” Give mom and dad credit for what they have done and are doing for you.
  4. Give your parents reason to be proud of the way you dress, how clean you keep your room, how consistently you practice your music lessons, and how you feel about God and your church.
  5. Be understanding if your parents are impatient. When they can’t buy you something you need right away, or when they worry about you more than you feel is necessary, try to see it their way.
  6. Give your parents a hug and say, “I love you” and show that you mean it.

If you follow these simple steps you’ll give your mom and dad a “heart attack” of new appreciation of restored communication and of love refreshed!

Try it!

(Adapted: Source unknown)

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Slow Starters

Winston Churchill seemed so dull as a youth that his father thought he might be incapable of earning a living in England. Charles Darwin did so poorly in school that his father once told him, “You will be a disgrace to yourself and all your family.”

G.K. Chesterton, the English writer, could not read until he was eight. One of his teachers told him, “If we could open your head we should not find any brain but only a lump of white fat.”Thomas Edison’s first teacher described him as “addled,” and his father almost convinced him he was a “dunce.”

Albert Einstein’s parents feared their child was dull, and he performed so badly in all high school courses except mathematics that a teacher asked him to drop out.

Source: Book of Lists, 1986, Irving Wallace, Wm. Morrow & Co


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Is the Internet Harmful to Youth?

I recently read with interest about some recent research by the MacArthur Foundation into the use of the internet involving 800 youth and their parents over a period of three years.

Source: Facebook, MySpace Beneficial To Teens by By Mike Sachoff

While the internet most definitely has lurking dangers hidden behind many of the links, not to mention porn, predators, malware, misleading and outright untrue information, unsavory groups and more, there are also some very real benefits to youth.

Here are some of the conclusions:

  • Youth who use social media such as MySpace and Facebook are developing important social and technical skills online that help them to be competent in the digital age. “The social worlds that youth are involved with have new kinds of dynamics, as online socializing is permanent, public, requires managing elaborate networks of friends and acquaintances, and is always on.”
  • The Internet provides a way for youth to interact and receive feedback from one another.
  • Young people respect each other’s authority online and are more motivated to learn from each other than adults.
  • Online spaces provide unprecedented opportunities for kids to expand their social worlds and engage in public life
  • Youth “learn on the Internet in a self-directed way, by looking around for information they are interested in, or connecting with others who can help them. This is a big departure from how they are asked to learn in most schools, where the teacher is the expert and there is a fixed set of content to master.”
  • In some cases the researchers found that parents and their children came together around gaming or shared digital media projects, where both parties found a common ground.

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How To Pray For Your Children

What a comfort it is to know that our Lord prays for His own. It is of great comfort to even the very young child to know that his parents love him and care for him so much that they pray to their Heavenly Father about him. The following suggestions might be helpful as you think of praying for your child, for his needs now and in the future.

  1. That they will know Christ as Saviour early in life (Psalm 63:1 and I Timothy 3:15).
  2. That they will have a hatred for sin (Psalm 97:10).
  3. That they will be caught when guilty (Psalm 119:71).
  4. That they will be protected from the evil one in each area of their lives: spiritual, emotional, and physical (John 17.15).
  5. That they will have a responsible attitude in all their interpersonal relationships (Daniel 6:3).
  6. That they will respect those in authority over them (Romans 13:1).
  7. That they will desire the right kind of friends and be protected from the wrong friends (Proverbs 1:10-11).
  8. That they will be kept from the wrong mate and saved for the right one (II Corinthians 6.14-17).
  9. That they, as well as those they marry, will be kept pure until marriage (I Corinthians 6:18-20).
  10. That they will learn to totally submit to God and actively resist Satan in all circumstances (James 4:7).
  11. That they will be single-hearted, willing to be sold out to Jesus Christ (Romans 12:1-2).
  12. That they will be hedged in so they cannot find their way to wrong people or wrong places and that the wrong people cannot find their way to them (Hosea 2:6).

Pick one point a month to concentrate on. Within a year, you will have consistently prayed this entire list.

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A Father’s Influence

Various studies conducted by Yale, John Hopkins and other groups have documented the following;
The absence of a father is a stronger factor than poverty in contributing to juvenile delinquency.

In 48 cultures around the world crime rates were highest among adults who as children had been raised solely by women. Closeness with parents was the common factor in hypertension, coronary heart disease, malignant tumors, mental illness and suicide. A study of 39 teenage girls suffering from anorexia nervosa showed that 36 of them had one common denominator; lack of closeness with their fathers.

An emotionally or physically absent father contributes to a child’s

  1. low motivation for achievement;
  2. inability to defer immediate gratification for later rewards;
  3. low self esteem;
  4. susceptibility to group influence and juvenile delinquency.

(Again the stats speak for themselves, father’s are important in the lives of their children, and they need to be there not just physically but emotionally as well).

And let me say something up front again, when I say fathers, I am not referring solely to biological fathers; I am also speaking of step-dads as well. Over 40% of all marriages in the US involve a remarriage of 1 or both parties. 1 out of 3 Americans (80 million people) is either a step parent, step child or step sibling. 1 out of 5 children under the age of 18 is a step child. And by the year 2,000 step families (involving 1 spouse who has children) and complex families (in which both spouse have children) will soon be the majority.

Now, If you’re like most men – even those who had a poor or harmful experience with their own fathers – you have a general idea of the kind of father you want to be. You have a picture in your mind of what a model father looks like: you want to be the kind of father: whose children feel secure, confident, loved and accepted whose children save sex for marriage, and remain faithful to their spouse in marriage. whose children develop a reputation as men and women of integrity; honest, ethical, hardworking. whose child might say, “my dad keeps his promises. whose children stand up to unhealthy peer pressure, children who develop healthy friendships,. whose kids say no to drugs and alcohol and risky behavior. whose children quickly admit their mistakes, who are forgiving and patient with others and who enjoy a healthy sense so self- esteem and self confidence. whose children have a hard time picking out a fathers day card (not because they say too much but say too little)

That’s the kind of father we all want to be. That’s the kind of father I want to be. But I know that I am not all I should be. And I know that for me to do this I need a model, I need an example of a father that I can pattern myself after, a father from who I can learn from and imitate.

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Honoring Mother

Listen, my child, to what your father teaches you. Don’t neglect your mother’s teaching. What you learn from them will crown you with grace and clothe you with honor.
~~ Proverbs 1:8-9 (New Living Translation)

Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first of the Ten Commandments that ends with a promise. And this is the promise: If you honor your father and mother, “you will live along life, full of blessing.”
~~ Ephesians 6:1-3 (New Living Translation)

The Bible says that our responsibility as children in a family is to obey our parents. This is a command (not a suggestion) from God.

Discussion

  • In what situations is it most difficult for you to obey your parents?
  • Why is obedience an important character trait?
  • How does obedience to your parents help you with your obedience to God?
  • What are some ways in which you can honor and show respect to your parents?
  • What are some things about your parents that you are thankful for?
  • What is God’s promise to those who are obedient to their parents?

Take it to the Next Level

  • God is your heavenly Father and he gave you to your Mom and Dad.
  • Give those circumstances when it is difficult to obey your parents to God in prayer. Ask for His guidance in overcoming your difficulty.
  • Seek God’s and your parents forgiveness for those times of disobedience and start afresh with your parents and Him.
  • Ask God to help you better understand the importance of obedience.
  • Look for a way to honor your parents, especially your Mother today!
  • Thank your parents for giving you guidance.

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Christian home or religious home?

There is a difference between a Christian home and a religious home. A religious home focuses upon the requirements of being a Christian, whereas a Christian home focuses on the relationship with God. Here are some of the characteristics of a Christian home:

  1. A Christian home is not legalistic but instead there is genuine intimacy and communication of God’s love and his desires for us.
  2. Family devotionals need to be a part of the family, but flexible, invigorating, full of variety and life. What a shame it is when we bore or burden our teens with religion rather then sharing the joy and love of serving God and growing in intimacy with Him!
  3. As parents we need to live by example – More is Caught than Taught. Principles mean little to a teen… example means everything! Those who are the best examples are not the ones supposedly living perfect Christian lives, but those who allow teenagers to look in and see what life is really like.. the struggles, the triumphs, the desire to grow. Expose youth to good models in other adults as well among your church members and friends.
  4. A teen’s view of God as the Father is often affected by earthly fathers. As father’s are we seeking to live in the example of the Heavenly Father?
  5. Perception is reality to teens… Don’t say the perception is false and ignore it… deal with the perceptions. Don’t see questions and doubts as threats but as opportunities to understand. Struggles are part of our spiritual journey.
  6. Don’t pretend to be perfect in your Christianity… be honest about your own faith and they will know that you are real… youth see hypocrisy quicker than anyone.
  7. Put a voice to your personal values and convictions and back them up by seeking to live by them.
  8. Remember that faith is a relationship with God, not a complete understanding. You don’t have to understand everything for your faith to make a difference. We use so much technology today that we don’t fully understand… the real issue is not how does it work, but instead how does it work for me. How does it make a difference in my life.
  9. Remember you cannot expect others to do your parenting work for you when you as a parent are the greatest influence on a child’s life. If you were to examine your life you will find things being transfered to your children… but very often it is our bad habits rather than our faith. Inspire your child. Spirituality is not demanded or forced but inspired and encouraged and nurtured.
  10. “Today’s church dropouts are not the kids; but their the parents. You can’t teach what you don’t know any more than you can come from where you have never been.” -Adrian Rogers If you want to see your child grow in their faith, you need to be GROWING in yours.
  11. You cannot do anything to be absolutely sure your teens will accept Christ because God gave each of us free will. But we can pray and live it ourselves daily!!
  12. Dt. 6:6-9 Talk about your faith at any time of the day (Note there is a difference between talking with someone and preaching!) Have a willingness to share plus a mental readiness to share when the time is right. If we want our children to desire the faith we have we must show its attractiveness… is the Christian life truly the abundant life for you or a burden.
  13. Make your home a place where other Christian teens are invited and welcome. Teens choose peers with needs similar to their own and as such can provide a clue to your teens needs and desires.
  14. Instead of getting defensive, as parents we must admit we are depending on Christ in our own weaknesses. Scripture teaches us to be vulnerable: “Not that we are competent to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.” II Cor 3:5 Be real. You don’t have to be a superhero to be a positive spiritual influence in the life of a youth!

Actually, while these truths are critical principles for parents, they are true for anyone who wants to make a positive difference in the lives of youths. That includes youth leaders, teachers, mentors, and anyone that has regular contact with teens.


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A Parent’s Prayer

Dear Heavenly Father, Make me a better parent. Teach me to understand my children, to listen patiently to what they have to say and to answer all their questions kindly.

Keep me from interrupting them, talking back to them and contradicting them. Make me as courteous to them as I would have them be to me.

Give me the courage to confess my sins against my children and to ask them forgiveness when I know that I have done them wrong.

Grant that I may never vainly hurt the feelings of my children. Forbid that I should laugh at their mistakes or resort to shame and ridicule as punishment.

Let me not tempt my child to lie or steal. So guide me hour by hour that I might demonstrate by all I say and do that honestly produces happiness.

Reduce, I pray, the meanness in me. May I cease to nag, and when I am out of sorts, help me O Lord, to hold my tongue. Blind me to the little errors of my children, and help me to see the good things they do.

Give me a ready word to honest praise. Help me to grow up with my children, to treat them as those of their own age, but let me not expect of them the judgments and conventions of adults.

Allow me not to rob them of the opportunity to learn for themselves, to think, to choose and to make decisions. Forbid that I should ever punish them for my selfish satisfaction.

May I grant them all their wishes that are reasonable,
And may I have the courage always to withhold a privilege which I know will do them harm.

Make me fair and just, and considerate and companionable to my children that they will have a genuine esteem for me. Make me fit to be loved and imitated by my children.

Amen.

Author: Garry C. Myers, as quoted by Abigail Van Buren in “Dear Abbey.”


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Father’s Influence

When parents understand the source of joy, when they decide to let Christ rule in their home, they have chosen the way of joy that will never disappoint them.

Billy Graham’s parents were both committed Christians. Although he was a businessman, his father had at one time felt a desire to preach. The way never seemed opened for him. After Billy entered the ministry, the father said, “I prayed for years for a way to be opened. But never once was there the slightest encouragement from God. My heart burned and I wondered why God did not answer my prayer. Now I feel I have the answer. I believe that my part was to raise a son to be a preacher.”

Imagine the joy that thought brought to him and to his wife.

Proclaim, Father’s Day Sermon: Joy in the Home, June 18, 1989

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